Took abt 3 days off from posting over the New Years holiday. While I didn’t post, I did put up a Story – wishing out a happy new year…& from it got a bunch of diff DM replies.
Some were of the polite variety: “HNY to you too.” Some were sweet: “Wishing you much happiness & health in 2023.” But there were a lot – a significant portion, that replied similar to: I’m struggling seeing everyone else w their resolutions & goals. I’m happy for them but it’s making me feel more & more buried & down abt myself.
Darren, Theo & I had @drjenonline from all the Morning Shows like The Today Show, on this week’s episode of “We’re All A Little ‘Crazy’” podcast (slide➡️). We were talking about the toxic positivity online arnd the holidays & how w the pics we see from friends – the families together, the vacations, you’re “supposed” to be happy this time of year. Darren said – the comparisons are hard. And Dr. Jenn chimed in: “Who says you have to be happy, NOW, just bc it’s the holidays. That’s BS. Our MH flows in waves – & we aren’t in control of those waves. We can have the tools to ride them out best we can…but we don’t control the waves or the sizes, of them.”
Wise words. And while talking abt the comparisons arnd the holidays may be old news, talking abt them during New Years is not.
So many ads abt “The new you.” About “The new workout plan…”The new diet.” How you’re going to “Crush 2023.”
Getting real here: Wish I could say the 3 days off here “refreshed me.” They didn’t. It was a little bit more like the term we use on the SameHere Scale – I was in “Surviving” mode. I’m still dealing w “stuff” that’s unresolved from 2022. And sometimes a made-up “rebirth” bc of a date on a calendar isn’t realistic & adds unneeded pressure.
If you’re going thru that, I feel you. I’m w you. Don’t let expectations get you down. There will be another time in the calendar you can feel renewed & in the mood to set goals & look to the future. If you’re just Surviving now, you’re doing great.
