This is MH! Maybe it seems like something philosophical at first…but it absolutely impacts our MH.
Had a busy wknd. Friend was coming in town. Had a friend from college’s daughter’s bat mitzvah on Saturday (a couple where I went to school w both). Then, I got the call on Thursday that my friend’s mom had passed & the funeral & shiva would be on Friday.
That friend is also a couple, from college, still together (I guess there’s a theme from my school :)).
When someone close to me goes thru something, I’m going to do anything I can to be there for them. What are we on this planet for, if not that??
And still as much as this guy is MY guy…I love him…we def don’t see each other nearly enuf. Jets games we’re on a text thread, but life’s busy. He has 2 daughters. He lives on LI. Tho that’s not far from the city he’s a very present dad. The time just isn’t there like it used to be.
Saturday morn I wake up to the short texts on the next page ➡️. “Thanks so much for coming by last nt. Meant so much to (his wife), & me. Love you brother.” Then: “That’s what brothers do. Til the end.”
I’m fortunate to have friends like him & his wife. It made me think back to what I loved abt college: time together w friends- where you literally are there for & arnd each other 24/7. Classes, gym, parties, bars, cramming, just lounging, & yes even the bad stuff like breakups & losses. When you have/had that TIME you show you care by being arnd someone always. You don’t even NEED to SAY anything. You’re just there.
As you get older & your time’s less avail, you just aren’t there (physically) in the same way. To me that’s a harsh reality of life. It sucks. But it makes you cherish those who emote & tell you HOW they make you feel, & HOW impt to them you are (& vice versa).
You have it w some friends. W others it’s a thing of the past. That’s sad to me. Saw that at the friend’s party on Saturday. Some cherish those few moments you get together to just BE. For some, it seems like a hassle just to – get there.
My one call today would be – TELL ppl what they mean to you. Time may be short, but our WORDS tell ppl a LOT & cost us nothing.